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On Facebook, SaySo aims to connect with all of you guys, in ways that are native to the Digital Age generation.

On Facebook, SaySo obviously shares events that SaySo, or ILR, are holding, and give you guys a chance to get connected with all of the fabulous opportunities that present themselves! However, because SaySo aims to connect with you guys on a day to day basis, saySo finnds Facebook a perfect opportunity to do just that!

 

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IT’S MY TRANSITION - Eaton Career Day!!!

SaySo Survivor Update Page

Congratulations to Roman Giambalvo Rys

For receiving his

Bachelor of Science in

Social Work from

East Carolina University!!!

 

 

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Congratulations to Melinda Medina

 For receiving her

Post-Baccalaureate

Paralegal Diploma!!!

You Rock Super-lady!!!

 

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Are you aware of this dangerous situation?!

 

 

Human trafficking is a crime where innocent people are forced to do things against their will. It is a crime where people profit from the control and exploitation of others.There are different kinds of trafficking. The kind of trafficking that young people are most commonly targets of is sex trafficking. Teens who are trafficked for sex are manipulated or forced to engage in a sexual act in exchange for something of value (money, drugs, food, shelter, clothing, etc.). Some young people may be manipulated or forced into performing some type of work (domestic work such as house keeping, working in agriculture, selling merchandise door to door or in the streets) in exchange for something of value. This is called labor trafficking.

Human trafficking can happen to anyone regardless of age, gender, or socioeconomic status, but there are certain things that might increase a person’s risk of being targeted by a trafficker. These risk factors can include the personal history of the young person being targeted, such as previous experiences of abuse or other trauma, but risk factors can also include community conditions like an established market for commercial sex (sexually oriented businesses, strip clubs, etc.). Learn how you can protect yourself and get the word out to other young people by exploring the links and resources here.

Links:

Just Ask VA is a public awareness campaign designed to expose the prevalence of sex trafficking in Northern Virginia. There is some information on this website that is specific to Virginia (crime tip reporting numbers), however most of the information is useful for learning about trafficking in general and can be applied wherever you happen to live. There is a lot of useful information for young people on this website, including quizzes to find out if you are at risk and resources to help you know what to do if you or someone you know is being manipulated, hurt, or trafficked.
http://justaskva.org/

Holly Austin Smith, a survivor of sex trafficking, is an author and advocate who serves as a consultant for AMBER alert and speaks about her experiences to educate law enforcement officers, services providers and raise awareness in communities.
http://hollyaustinsmith.com/

Courtney’s House is a nonprofit organization that serves survivors of sex trafficking in the Washington DC area. Founded in 2008 by survivor, Tina Frundt, Courtney’s House also engages in raising awareness and providing training in local communities.
http://www.courtneyshouse.org

Polaris Project is a nonprofit organization that works in the United States and around the world to end human trafficking. Polaris Project works to strengthen federal and state laws, operates the National Human Trafficking Resource Center hotline, conducts trainings, and provides vital services to victims of human trafficking. Their website has a lot of information and valuable resource, including outreach materials.
http://www.polarisproject.org

The Child Welfare Information Gateway is a service of the Children’s Bureau, the Administration for Children and Families, and the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services that provides access to materials for improving child welfare practice. This link contains information from various states and organizations about the relationship between the child welfare system and human trafficking, including building child welfare response to human trafficking, learning the pathways into and out of the commercial sexual victimization of children, and meeting the legal needs of child trafficking victims.
https://www.childwelfare.gov/responding/human_trafficking.cfm

The National Resource Center for Permanency and Family Connections at the Hunter College School of Social Work is a training, technical assistance, and information service organization dedicated to help strengthen the capacity of State, local, Tribal and other publicly administered child welfare agencies to institutionalize a safety-focused, family-centered, community-based approach to meet the needs of children, youth and families. This link provides a long list of resources from a variety of sources on child trafficking. Some of the resources may be the same as those linked through the Child Welfare Information Gateway (referenced above).
http://www.nrcpfc.org/is/trafficked-and-exploited-children-and-youth.html

 

Strategies for LINKS Workers and Resources for Parents:

● Media Literacy – Media literacy means being able to think critically about    all forms of media that we consume (news, entertainment, advertisements,etc.) and ask questions like; who these various forms of media are targeting, what interests they represent, and what techniques they use to    help persuade their audience. It is critical for professionals that work with young people (foster care workers), as well as resource parents (foster or adoptive) to become media literate and to teach young people how to    become critical consumers of media. Raising your awareness about how businesses and other industries are sending messages to young people through media is an important component in the prevention of trafficking.  Traffickers understand the messages sent by popular culture and they use these messages to recruit and exploit young people.

● Internet Safety – It can be difficult to keep up with the fast pace of technology and it can certainly be true that the young people you care about and work with every day have an understanding that surpasses your own, especially as technology changes. What you should know, however, is that there are resources to help ensure the safety of young people while  they use the internet.  The North Carolina Department of Justice has developed a video and a downloadable guide about keeping young people safe on the internet. Here is the link where you can access these materials:   http://www.ncdoj.gov/getdoc/72b91bd7-6988-4c29-9c7e-4868c2b86515/2-0-1-3-2-6-Internet-Safety-Video-and-Guide.aspx

● Coping Skills – Helping young people develop healthy coping skills can not only help prevent trafficking, but can help prevent young people from becoming involved in other dangerous or unhealthy situations. Healthy coping skills can also help young people manage stress, improve self-esteem, and build strong social support systems.  All of these things can help prevent a young person from becoming the target of a trafficker.

● Extracurricular Activities – Like coping skills, healthy extracurricular activities can help prevent a young person from becoming trafficked. These activities could include, but may not be limited to, school sponsored   clubs, sports, or programs, or other interests cultivated outside of school  like art, music, dance, volunteering, or faith/church groups. There are several ways that extracurricular activities help young people, including building self-esteem, learning important skills like team work, and decreasing the opportunity to be involved in problem behavior. In fact, some research suggests that young people who are involved in pro-social activities are less likely to commit or be victims of crime.

● Tell Young People that they CAN say NO – It is hard to deny that our society is saturated with images of sex and distorted images of beauty and value. This can teach young people that sex appeal equals value. Helping  young  people to look beyond this message is important. Young people need to know that they have the right to say no to anyone at any time, no matter what. It is THEIR body and only theirs. NOBODY has the right to touch them - no matter what, no matter when. Hearing this from someone they trust and care about will only help to deepen the impact of the message. Don’t be afraid to talk to the young people you work with about their right to say NO - they need to hear this message!

● Encourage Young People to ASK QUESTIONS – Young people cannot protect themselves from undesirable or unsafe situations if they are not given the information they need to protect their health and safety. Intentionally providing false information or failing to provide accurate information (or any information) about their health, their bodies, and their lives is not helpful to anyone. Encourage young people to ask questions about sex or sexual orientation, physical health and nutrition, developing  positive relationships with their peers, or what a healthy romantic relationship looks like. Most importantly; be there for them when they ask  these questions. It may be uncomfortable, but that feeling is temporary. By coming to you with difficult questions they are telling you that they trust you. Don’t break that trust by refusing to engage in the conversation.

● Teach Young People HOW TRAFFICKERS WORK – Traffickers often can be found in the same places young people like to hang out, like shopping malls and online. They probably don’t look like you picture them. They will likely be well-dressed. They will probably be young – in their 20s or so. Traffickers may buy young people clothes, shoes, or other expensive items to win their affection. Traffickers also know how to use a young person’s vulnerabilities against them. This means that young people in foster care may be especially vulnerable due to their history of trauma. Make sure  that young people know the techniques that traffickers use so that they can prevent themselves from being targeted or recruited.

● Encourage Young People to Raise Awareness – Encouraging and  empowering young people to raise awareness about the issue of human trafficking or educate others about media literacy is a powerful way to engage them in prevention. Not only will they learn how to protect themselves, but they will learn how to protect and empower other young people.  Engagement in advocacy and awareness activities can enhance healing and growth, and help young people develop vital leadership skills.

Board of Directors Orientation Retreat

2013 Newsletters

2013 - Volume 14
(Please click the issue you would like to view)

Issue 1 - January
Issue 2 - April
Issue 3 - July
Issue 4 - October

Joining Fostering Change Network

Fostering change want you to join their network and it is FREE!!!

If you’re interested or have any additional questions, please contact us at 800-660-2338800-660-2338 ext. 1 or sign up online at
www.fosteringchangenetwork.com.

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Congratulations to the Barretts!!!

A message from the bride

"My name is Keyona Reynolds and I used to be apart of the BOD for Sayso. My fiancé,Terese Barrett (Nancy would know him as Smiley) was also a part of Sayso and we met each other through Page Week in 2008. We wanted to let you all know that we are getting married on March 1! We have been dating for 5 years and I relationship began through Sayso."

 

 

We at SaySo are hoping for the best of things in your marriage. We are confident that you will be a blessing to each other and to those who you meet through your lives.

 

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“SaySo Congratulates two outstanding young leaders from NC….”

“SaySo Congratulates two outstanding young leaders from NC….”

2013 Outstanding

Young Leader Awards

 

Kashawn McRavion-Little, 22

 

Isaiah Roberts, 17

They will be honoring

young people from North

Carolina in recognition of

personal achievements

and public service!

 

The Foster Care Alumni of America is…

...in the process of establishing a Chapter in North Carolina. The Vision for the Foster Care Alumni of America was developed by alumni of Foster Care Adults who were once in foster care.

The vision of the Foster Care Alumni is to ensure a high quality of life for those in and from foster care through the collective voice of alumni. We intend to erase the differences in opportunities and outcomes that exist for people in and from foster care compared to those who have not experienced foster care.

We believe that opportunities to improve outcomes for alumni of foster care continue beyond age 18-25 and that a significant way to improve the quality of life for alumni is to provide opportunities for us to connect with each other, reducing isolation and increasing the likelihood of permanent family and community.

If you are interested to learn more about the Foster Care Alumni of America’s mission and how to join please contact Ms. Angela Norward by emailing to angela.norward@gmail.com.

Below please find the link to the FCAA website:

http://www.fostercarealumni.org/

Best Regards,

Angela Norward

Update-SaySo Make a Difference Day’s Special Thanks to Eaton Corp.

Affordable Care Act (Obamacare)

Beginning January 1, 2014, the Affordable Care Act (ACA) will mandate that states provide extended Medicaid to youth who aged out of the foster care system.  This differs from the extended Medicaid program in North Carolina for aged out foster youth as its for youth that were enrolled in Medicaid upon aging out and extends to age 26 rather than 21. 

You may view an archived webcast on Implementing the Affordable Care Act for Adolescents and Young Adults: Practical Considerations at http://learning.mchb.hrsa.gov/archivedWebcastDetail.asp?id=344.

The North Carolina Division of Medical Assistance plans to issue policy towards the end of this year in preparation of this new provision.  In the meantime, we are encouraging counties to begin thinking about how to do outreach to their aged out youth, even those beyond their 21st birthday, to ensure that they are aware of this entitlement.  The Division will work with its partners as well to begin strategizing ways to outreach to these young people.

Learn how the health care law affect  you at Healthcare.gov. This is the official site of the Health Insurance Marketplace. See all your options and get the information.

...but if you still have questions regarding where you stand with Obamacare you can contact Marcella Middleton at Marcella.middleton@ilrinc.com for help.

SaySo Donation Acknowledgements

We would like to give a special thanks to everyones that donates to SaySo:

  • Nathan-Groves Fund of the Triangle Community Foundation -In honor of Mr. Caleb Baker and his wife for reaching out to two young boys and providing them a stable home.

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Link-Up Update Page

It’s My Transition Update Page

SaySo’s NEW EXECUTIVE DIRECTOR is…

2012 Newsletters

2012 - Volume 13
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Issue 1 - January
Issue 2 - March
Issue 3 - May
Issue 4 - July
Issue 5 - November 
 

 

The Bill of Rights is Here!!!

LGBTQ

LGBTQ (lesbian, gay, bisexual, trangender or questioning)

Here is the best provided information on LGBTQ youth and families in Care as well as contact information for support

 

 

Information for LGBTQ youth in Care

FAQ about Transgender Individuals & Gender Identity

iNSIDEoUT is a youth-founded, youth-led organization that provides leadership opportunities & a safe space for North Carolina's LGBTQISA-queer youth, both in & out of schools. By providing educational-, social-, & activism-oriented programs, iNSIDEoUT strives to form, strengthen, & network Gay-Straight Alliances while connecting & empowering youth, seeking to expand beyond the Triangle. iNSIDEoUT encourages you to become a part of our family & community.

 

If you have any suggestions for other topic or information you would like to add, email mail sayso@ilrinc.com  

Supportive Services

Supportive Serivces is here with contact information for addtional assistance on issues that maybe personal to you. You may not want to share it with us, but we encourage you to please talk to someone who can help.

 

 

Here are a couple to look at:

 

National Suicide Prevention - 1-800-273-TALK1-800-273-TALK (8255)

http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ 

 

National Teen Domestic Violence Abuse Hotline - 1-800-799-SAFE1-800-799-SAFE (7233)

http://www.thehotline.org/is-this-abuse/teens-and-dating-abuse/ 

 

National Bullying Prevention Center 

http://www.pacerteensagainstbullying.org/#/home

 

National Sexual Assault Hotline - 1-800-656-HOPE1-800-656-HOPE (4673)

http://www.rainn.org/get-help/national-sexual-assault-hotline

 

Suicide Prevention Resource Ctr (Teen tip sheet)

http://www.sprc.org/sites/sprc.org/files/Teens.pdf  

 

Text 4 teens

http://naminc.org/support-and-education/text-4-teens/

 

SaySo By-laws

 

Article I Name, Seal, and Offices

Section 1.1   Name.  The name of this corporation is:

SAYSO, INC.

The name of this corporation shall not be used in connection with any meeting or program not approved by the corporation.  This corporation may be referred to herein as the "corporation" or as “SAYSO” (standing for “Strong Able Youth Speaking Out”).

Section 1.2   Seal.  The corporate seal of the corporation shall consist of two (2) concentric circles between which is the name of the corporation and in the center of which is inscribed SEAL:  and such seal, as impresses on the margin hereof, is hereby adopted as the corporate seal of the corporation.

Section 1.3  Registered Office.  The corporation shall have and continuously maintain a registered office and registered agent in the state of North Carolina. The registered agent or the location of the registered office within the State of North Carolina may be changed by resolution of the Board of Directors or Executive Committee.

Section 1.4  Principal Office.  The principal place of business of the corporation and the principal office of the corporation is currently located at the offices of Independent Living Resources, Inc., 411 Andrews Road, Suite 230, Durham, North Carolina 27705.  The principal office may be changed at any time by resolution of the Board of Directors.

Section 1.5  Branch Offices.  Other branch or subordinate offices may be established, by appropriate resolution of the Board of Directors, at any time and at any place or places as may be designated by the Board of Directors.

Article II Articles of Incorporation, Purposes

Section 2.1   Articles of Incorporation.  The Articles of Incorporation are incorporated into and made a part of these bylaws.

Section 2.2   Purposes.   The purposes of this corporation are set forth in its Articles of Incorporation.



Section 2.3. Limitation  of  Purpose.  It is expressly declared that the corporation exists for charitable purposes only and has not been formed for pecuniary profit or financial gain, and no part of the assets, income or profit of the corporation shall inure to or be distributed to the benefit of any member, donor, director, officer, employee or private individual.  No substantial part of the activities of the corporation shall consist of carrying on propaganda or otherwise attempting to influence legislation, and the corporation shall not participate, or intervene in (including the publication or distribution of statements) any political campaign on behalf of any candidate for public office.  Notwithstanding any other provisions of these Articles, the corporation shall not carry on any activities not permitted to be carried on:

  a. By a corporation exempt from Federal Income Tax under Section 501 (c) (3) of the Internal Revenue Code of 1954, as amended or

  b. By a corporation, contributions to which are deductible under Section 170 (c) (2) of the Internal Revenue Code of 1954, as amended.

Section 2.4. Public Support.  The corporation shall conduct such programs and activities as the Board of Directors shall determine so as to attract broadly-based financial support from the general public, public charities and governmental units, on a continuous basis.

Section 2.5. Dissolution.  In the event of the dissolution or liquidation of the corporation, the Board of Directors of the corporation shall dispose and deliver all assets of the corporation for such charitable purposes as are set forth in the Articles of Incorporation.  Unless and until the Board of Directors shall determine otherwise, or the same shall be inconsistent with the Articles of Incorporation, the corporate assets shall be distributed upon dissolution or liquidation to the North Carolina Chapter of Prevent Child Abuse.

Article III
Membership

Section 3.1. Application for membership.  Any individual, firm, corporation, agency, association, group, partnership or other entity eligible for membership in one or more classes of members as hereinafter provided may file with the Board of Directors of SAYSO  an application for membership in said class or classes of membership.  Upon payment of any dues as prescribed for the particular membership class, and upon acceptance of the application for membership, the applicant shall be considered a member in good standing of SAYSO.

Section 3.2. Classes of membership.  The membership of SAYSO shall presently be comprised of a single class of regular members, and a special class of members, which shall be referred to collectively as the SAYSO Adult Advisory Committee.  The Board of Directors, in its discretion, may expand membership options into the two additional classes: (i) institutional membership, and (ii) associate membership.

a. Regular members shall include those individuals, age 14 to 24, residing in North Carolina, who are currently or have been in “out-of-home” care, including foster care, juvenile detention/training centers, group homes, kinship placements, and mental health placements.

b. Adult Advisory Committee members shall include those adult individuals, selected from time to time by the Board of Directors in the manner hereinafter described, who can provide dependable, committed and enthusiastic support, and advice, to SAYSO.

c. Institutional members (when authorized) shall include those firms, corporations, agencies, associations, groups, partnerships or other entities that support the objectives of SAYSO.

d. Associate members (when authorized) shall include all individuals who share the objectives of SAYSO but are not qualified as regular members, by reason of age or life experience, or place of residence.

e. Subject to the specific roles hereinafter set forth for the SAYSO Adult Advisory Committee, it is understood that only regular members, as defined above, shall have voting rights in Society matters.  It is further understood, however, that such voting rights do not include any entitlement to vote on bylaw amendments.

Section 3.3 Human Rights.  Membership in SAYSO shall be open to all persons without regard to race, color, religion, creed, sex, national origin, ancestry, ethnicity,  marital status, disability, or sexual orientation.  SAYSO shall not discriminate against any person because of the above factors.  While participating in the activities of SAYSO, all persons shall comply with this policy.

Article IV
Dues and Terms of Membership

Section 4.1. Dues and Terms of Membership.  No regular member shall be required to pay dues, but may be required to affirm in writing, not more frequently than annually,  the member’s desire to remain enrolled as an member.  Unless otherwise provided herein, or otherwise determined by the Board of Directors, membership shall generally be determined on a calendar year basis. The amounts of dues, and terms of membership, for other classes of membership, if any other classes of membership are established, shall be determined from time to time by the Board of Directors.

Section 4.2 Board Orientation Attendance (Amended September 25, 2010). Attendance to SaySo BOD Orientation is mandatory for all elected members to the SaySo Board of Directors. Absence will prevent a member from being commissioned to the SaySo Board of Directors. Exceptions to this should be a crisis and discussed with the SaySo Program Director. Final determination will be made by the Board at Orientation.


Article V
Board of Directors

Section 5.1. General powers.  The business and affairs of the association shall be managed by its Board of Directors.

Section 5.2.  Number, tenure and qualifications.  The Board of Directors shall be comprised of twenty Directors, elected as follows: the membership of the six regions (1: Mountains; 2: Charlotte Area; 3: Triad; 4: Triangle and Fayetteville; 5: Northeast; and 6: Southeast) shall, at the Annual Meeting of Members, also known as the Spring Membership Meeting, or Say-So Saturday, elect three Directors from each region for a one year term.  These eighteen will then serve with that Co-Chair and that Secretary or Treasurer who were elected in the prior year and have one year remaining, for a total of twenty Directors.

This Board will meet in connection with a Board of Directors Orientation Weekend and on the last day thereof elect from the eighteen newly elected Directors both a new Co-Chair and either a Secretary or Treasurer who would thereupon assume such office and serve (as Officer and Director) for a two year term.   The Secretary will be elected in even years, and the Treasurer will be elected in odd years. A Sergeant at Arms will also be elected annually from the eighteen newly elected Directors.

Each of the Directors shall have the right to vote on all matters brought before the Board of Directors.

Each newly elected director shall take office at the end of the Board of Directors Orientation Weekend which follows the annual meeting of directors (held in conjunction with Say-So Saturday in the spring) and shall serve until a successor is elected and qualifies or until death or resignation from office.  A director may resign at any time by filing a written resignation with the secretary of SAYSO.  Directors must qualify as and be regular members of SAYSO at the time of their election, but may serve out their elective term even if they might otherwise age-out of regular membership or change their state of residence, as long as they are able to continue to attend meetings.

Section 5.3. Meetings.  A regular meeting of the Board of Directors shall be held immediately prior to and at the same place as the Annual Meeting of the Members of SAYSO, on the first Saturday in March, at such location in North Carolina as may be determined by the Board of Directors, without other notice than this Bylaw.  All other meetings may be held in person or by telephone conference.  The Board of Directors may provide, by resolution, for the holding of other regular or special meetings without other notice than such resolution, and will unless otherwise agreed have at least four meetings each year.

Special meetings may also be called by or at the request of the Co-Chairs or any twelve directors, such call to specify the time and place for the meeting.

Section 5.4. Quorum.  A majority of the total number of directors fixed by Section 5.2 hereof shall constitute a quorum for the transaction of any business at any meeting of the Board of Directors.  However, a majority of the directors present though less than a quorum may adjourn the meeting from time to time without further notice.

Section 5.5. Manner of acting.  The act of a majority of the directors present at a meeting at which a quorum is present shall be the act of the Board of Directors.


Section 5.6. Vacancies.  Any vacancy occurring on the Board of Directors with respect to elective positions (including Officer positions) shall be filled pending the next succeeding annual election by a two-thirds vote of the directors then in office.  Except in the case of filling a vacancy for an officer position, the next highest vote getter from the region where the vacancy arises shall be the only name placed in nomination for such vacancy, unless such person is not then a duly qualified regular member or otherwise unavailable to serve, or unless more than two-thirds of the directors then in office consent to an additional nomination.

Section 5.7. Presumption of assent.  A director of SAYSO who is present at a meeting of the Board of Directors or a committee thereof at which action on any Society matter is taken shall be presumed to have assented to the action taken unless such director enters a dissent in the minutes of the meeting or unless a written dissent to such action is filed by said director with the person acting as the secretary of the meeting before the adjournment thereof or shall forward such dissent by restricted certified mall to the Secretary of SAYSO immediately following the adjournment of the meeting.  Such right to dissent shall not apply to a director who voted in favor of such action.

Section 5.8. Informal action without meeting.  Any action required or permitted by the articles of incorporation or bylaws to be taken by the Board of Directors at a meeting or by resolution may be taken without a meeting if a consent in writing, setting forth the action so taken, shall be signed by all of the directors then in office.

Article VI
Officers

Section 6.1. Co-Chairs.  The Co-Chairs shall be filled by the election each year of a single Co-Chair, who shall be elected by the newly constituted Board of Directors to serve for a two year term. The Co-Chairs (or either of them) shall, when present, preside at all meetings of SAYSO and of the Board of Directors and shall have authority to sign, execute, and acknowledge, on behalf of SAYSO, those instruments provided in Article VII hereof and instruments necessary or proper to be executed in the course of SAYSO's regular business or which shall be authorized by resolution of the Board of Directors.   When convenient, the Co-Chairs may also be referred to as Co-Presidents.

The Co-Chairs shall make appointments to any special or standing committees and subcommittees created by action of the Board of Directors or general membership. 

In general, the Co-Chairs shall perform all duties incident to the office of a corporation’s president and such other duties as may be prescribed by the Board of Directors from time to time.

In consultation with the Board of Directors, the Co-Chairs shall be responsible for preparing a program for the Annual Meeting. 


Section 6.2. Secretary.  The office of Secretary shall be an elective position, elected every other year (in even-numbered years) by the newly constituted Board of Directors, to serve for a two year term.  The Secretary shall, with the assistance of the Executive Director (a) keep the minutes of the meetings of the general membership of SAYSO and of the Board of Directors in one or more books provided for that purpose; (b) see that all notices are duly given in accordance with the provisions of these Bylaws, Articles of Incorporation, or as required by law; (c) be custodian of SAYSO's records; (d) maintain the register of the post office address of members of each class; (e) certify resolutions; and (f) in general, perform all of the duties incident to the office of a corporation’s secretary, and have such other duties and exercise such other authority as from time to time may be delegated or assigned by the Co-Chair(s) or the Board of Directors.  The Secretary may be covered by a fidelity bond in an amount determined by resolution of the Board of Directors.

Section 6.3. Treasurer.  The office of treasurer shall be an elective position, elected every other year (in odd-numbered years) by the newly constituted Board of Directors, to serve for a two year term.   The Treasurer shall with the assistance of the Executive Director (a) have charge and custody and be responsible for all funds and securities of SAYSO, receive and give receipts for moneys due and payable to SAYSO from any source whatsoever, endorse and deposit all such moneys in the name of SAYSO in such banks, trust companies or other depositories as shall be designated by resolution of the Board of Directors; (b) function as principal accounting officer in charge of books of account, accounting records, and forms of SAYSO; (c) maintain adequate records of all assets, liabilities, and transactions of SAYSO; (d) obtain from other officers all reports needed for recording the general operation of SAYSO or for supervising and directing accounts; and (e) in general, perform all of the duties incident to the office of a corporation’s treasurer, and have such other duties and exercise such other authority as from time to time may be delegated or assigned by the Co-Chair(s) or the Board of Directors.  The Treasurer may be covered by a fidelity bond in an amount determined by resolution of the Board of Directors.

Section 6.4. Sergeant at Arms.  The office of Sergeant at Arms shall be an elective position, elected annually by the newly constituted Board of Directors, to serve for a one year term.   The Sergeant at Arms  shall with the assistance of the Executive Director (a) be familiar with the applicable rules and assume responsibility for maintaining order at all meetings of the membership and/or the Board of Directors, (b) maintain the organizational scrapbook, and (c) have such other duties and exercise such other authority as from time to time may be delegated or assigned by the Co-Chair(s) or the Board of Directors.

Section 6.5. Replacement of Officers.  In the event of death, incapacity or inability to serve of any of the corporate officers, the Board of Directors shall elect a replacement officer as provided in Section 5.6.

Section 6.6. Executive Director.  SAYSO shall contract with any qualified individual, firm, agency, or other organization to provide a central administrative office.  In connection with providing the office, the contracting organization may designate an employee to serve as Executive Director of SAYSO.  The Executive Director shall, (a) assume certain of the powers, duties and responsibilities typically allocated to secretary or treasurer; (b) provide responses or referrals to general inquiries, handle routine correspondence to and from SAYSO officers, committees and members, and initiate other correspondence as directed by SAYSO officers; (c) provide administrative and promotional support for SAYSO's Annual Meeting to include securing facilities and services for the Annual Meeting at a site and within a budget determined by the board; (d) act as an ex-officio member of the SAYSO Adult Advisory Committee, (e) act as a liaison with other associations; and (f) in general, perform all of the duties incident to the office of Executive Director and have such other duties and exercise such other authority as from time to time may be delegated or assigned by the Co-Chair(s) or the Board of Directors.  The Executive Director may be covered by a fidelity bond in an amount determined by resolution of the Board of Directors.


Section 6.7. Appointments.  As an operating procedure, the Board of Directors may reach agreements with appointees to the position of Executive Director for appointments of one to five years, with the provision for an evaluation preceding reappointment each year and a performance
  review at the end of any such term of appointment if an additional term is being considered.  All appointments or contracts shall be subject to the advice (review by) and consent (approval) of (a majority of) the SAYSO Adult Advisory Committee.

Article VII
Members’ Elections of Directors

Section 7.1. Nominations.  Nominations shall be accepted from the floor during separate regional caucuses conducted during the election portion of the agenda at the Annual Meeting, whereupon all nominees shall certify their eligibility to serve, and have be allotted a reasonable time (four minutes, unless the Co-Chairs determine otherwise) to make a statement to the other members from their region in support of their candidacy.  Three Ballots shall be distributed to each regular member, to be cast in writing for the election of Directors from their region. The names of all nominated candidates shall be listed in a conspicuous place, but write-in votes shall also be permitted.

Section 7.2. Counts.  The ballots shall be collected and counted on site by current or former officers not seeking re-election, or by adult volunteers, as may be appointed by the Co-Chairs, and the ballots shall be placed in separate sealed envelopes, one for each reason, with the results of the count certified by such teller as may have been appointed by the Co-Chairs.

Article VIII
SAYSO Adult Advisory Committee

Section 8.1. Numbers; Appointments; Term.  This special class of membership (the Committee) shall consist of at least four, and no more than eight,  adult individuals, selected from time to time by the Board of Directors in the manner hereinafter described, who can provide dependable, committed and enthusiastic support, and advice, to SAYSO.  No member of the Committee shall be required to pay dues. Whenever the Committee shall have less than four members, or whenever the Board may determine that additional members (not to exceed an aggregate Committee total of eight) should be appointed, candidates for the Committee shall or may be identified and interviewed by the Board and appointed to the Committee for a two year term, but only upon the unanimous agreement of the Board of Directors.  Members may also be reappointed upon expiration of any term, in the discretion of the Board.  Committee members may also be removed, prior to the expiration of their appointed term, only upon the unanimous act of the Board of Directors.  The Executive Director shall also serve as an ex-officio member of the Committee.

Section 8.2 Meetings.  The SAYSO Adult Advisory Committee will ordinarily meet at the same times and places as the Board of Directors.

Section 8.3 Advice and Consent; Additional Responsibilities.  The SAYSO Adult Advisory Committee is given special rights respecting advice and consent to Board actions, as otherwise set forth in Sections 6.7 and 14.3 herein.  Additional responsibilities of the SAYSO Adult Advisory Committee, such as may involve a general advisory role, accompaniment to workshops and conferences, or the providing of transportation, will be determined by the Committee in consultation with, and subject to the approval of, the Board of Directors.

Article IX
Society Business Transactions

Section 9.1. Endorsement of stock certificates.  Any share or shares of stock issued by any corporation and owned by the corporation may, for sale or transfer, be endorsed in the name of SAYSO by the Co-Chairs, or either of them, subject to specific directions as to such sale or transfer by the Board of Directors.

Section 9.2. Voting of shares.  Any share or shares of stock issued by any corporation and owned by the corporation may be voted at any shareholders' meeting of such corporation in person or by proxy by the Co-Chairs, or either of them.

Section 9.3. Deposits.  All funds of SAYSO not otherwise employed shall be deposited from time to time to the credit of SAYSO in such banks, trust companies, or other depositories as may be determined by resolution of the Board of Directors.

Section 9.4. Execution of deeds, mortgages and releases.  All deeds, conveyances, leases and mortgages of real property made by SAYSO shall be executed by the Co-Chairs, or either of them, and all releases of mortgages, liens, judgments, and other claims that are required by law to be made a matter of record may be executed by the Co-Chairs, or either of them, in each case only pursuant to specific approval of such action by resolution of the Board of Directors..

Section 9.5. Negotiable instruments.  Unless otherwise determined by action of the Board of Directors, all checks, drafts, notes, bonds, bills of exchange, and orders for the payment of money of SAYSO must be signed by any one or more of the Co-Chairs or the treasurer, and by the Executive Director.

Section 9.6. Borrowing money.  The treasurer may borrow money up to a maximum total amount of $1,000, with the consent of the Executive Director, but without further Board of Directors authorization, and may pledge as security therefor stocks and securities of SAYSO as required.

Section 9.7. Purchase and sale contracts.  Unless otherwise determined by action of the Board of Directors, the Co-Chairs shall have the authority to enter into written or oral contracts for the purchase and sale of goods and services on behalf of SAYSO, and the secretary (or treasurer) may enter into written or oral contracts for the purchase of supplies, postage, printing services, and other goods and services reasonably related to operation of the office of secretary (or treasurer), only with the express approval and joinder of the Executive Director.  The Executive Director may enter into written or oral contracts for the purchase and sale of goods and services reasonably related to the operation of the central office and duties assigned to the Executive Director.

Section 9.8. Indemnification.  It is intended that the directors, officers and employees or agents of the corporation shall not have personal financial responsibility for the corporation's expenses.  The corporation shall accordingly have power to indemnify to the fullest extent permitted by law any present or former director, officer, employee or agent, including any person engaged in corporation business through committee service or otherwise, expenses and costs (including attorney's fees and judgments or fines) actually and necessarily incurred by him in connection with the defense or settlement action, suit or proceeding to which he is made a party by reason of his being or having been such official, except in relation to matters as to which he shall be finally adjudged to be liable for willful misconduct amounting to bad faith.  Such indemnification shall not be deemed exclusive of any other rights to which those indemnified may be entitled apart from the provision of this By-Law.  The corporation shall have the power to purchase and maintain insurance on behalf on any person who is or was an official of the corporation against any liability asserted against such official arising out of his status as an official.

Article X
Fiscal Year

Section 10.1. Fiscal Year.  The fiscal year of the association shall be determined by resolution of the Board of Directors, from time to time.

Article X
Procedures for Meetings

Section 11.1. Parliamentary authority.  The rules contained in Roberts' Rules of Order Revised shall govern meetings of the membership and meetings of the Board of Directors in all cases in which they are applicable and in which they are not inconsistent with these Bylaws, the Articles of Incorporation, or applicable law.

Article XII
Appropriations and Expenses

Section 12.1. Annual budget.  The Board of Directors shall approve the annual budget for the association, which approval shall constitute authorization for expenditure.

Article XIII
Committees

Section 13.1. Special committees.  There shall be such special committees as the Board of Directors shall, from time to time, create by resolution.  The Co-Chairs, upon the advice of the Board of Directors, shall appoint the chairperson and all members of special committees for one-year terms.

Section 13.2. Ad hoc committees.  The Co-Chairs may, from time to time, create ad hoc committees, whose existence shall terminate with the expiration of the Co-Chairs' term of office, but may be extended by the succeeding Co-Chairs so long as the committee is not in existence more than three years.

Section 13.3. Travel expenses for committee activities.  Committees may incur travel expenses in connection with their assignments only as specifically authorized by action of the Board of Directors except that the Executive Director  may, at his or her discretion, authorize travel expenses for an individual member in clearly unusual circumstances.  In general, the association does not assume responsibility for travel or other expenses associated with committee activities.

Article XIV
Amendments

Section 14.1. Amendment By Board of Directors.  These Bylaws may be amended by a majority vote of the members of the Board of Directors at a meeting in which a quorum is present and at which the same is voted on. 

Section 14.2. Membership Opportunity for Discussion of Bylaw Amendments.   While the Members are not entitled to vote on bylaw amendments, the Board of Directors will not, in the absence of compelling need, vote to adopt a bylaw amendment without there having first been some presentation to the membership and opportunity for discussion, in at least general terms, respecting the amendment or the need for an amendment, at an Annual Meeting of the Members.  This requirement of an opportunity for membership discussion in general terms shall not require that all of the details of an amendment shall have been presented to the membership for discussion, it being understood that the Board of Directors shall have the discretion to resolve any potential differences in opinion respecting an amendment, or the need for an amendment,  through creative negotiations, and that the good faith determination of the Co-Chairs that the required opportunity for membership discussion has been satisfied shall be conclusive on the matter.

Section 14.3. Advice and Consent Required for Certain Amendments.  Notwithstanding the foregoing, these Bylaws may not be amended to eliminate or otherwise modify the role of the Executive Director, or the SAYSO Adult Advisory Committee, or the terms of such special membership, in either case without the advice and consent of (a majority of) the SAYSO Adult Advisory Committee.

 

 

Access Downloadable copy here of SaySo's by-laws:

http://www.saysoinc.org/uploads/assets/SaySo By-laws (2011)(1).pdf

 

Camellia Network: A Support Net(work) for Youth Aging Out of Foster Care

Camellia Network harnesses the power of new technology to connect youth "aging out" of the foster care system with a community of resources, opportunities, encouragement and support. Youth have profiles on the site, giving them a place to express themselves, share their goals for the future, and articulate what they need to be successful. Individuals and companies from across the country are able to collectively provide the support these young people need by offering up doses of encouragement, career advice, professional connections, and financial support to help them navigate their way into adulthood. This innovative platform is the first of its kind in the child welfare sector.

 

Things People Never Told Me

When you Transition Out of foster care
and start living on your own, there are
some things in life that
people seem to forget
to tell you about!

Thanks to the people at pathwaysrtc for answering alot of the questions you might have forgotten to ask! The Things People Never Told Me is available here just click

Brunswick County

Brunswick County Local Chapter was established in July 2012

Contact

Kalyn DenBleyker, SaySo Regional Assistant for Region 6  Email: kalynd2009@aol.com
 

Soap & More for SaySo
Strong Able Youth Speaking Out
November 26 - December 4

 


**Donated hygiene items will go to foster children who are in the care of Brunswick County DSS.**


Recommended items include, but are not limited to:


Soap - any kind! (i.e. hand soap, bars of soap, body wash, hand sanitizer)

Toothpaste, Toothbrushes, Mouthwash, Floss

Shampoo & Conditioner

Feminine Products

Brushes & Combs

Hair Products

Nail Clippers

Deodorant

Face wash

Loofah

Lotion

Q-tips

Collection bins for donations will be located at

North Brunswick High School,

East Columbus High School,

Brunswick County DSS and

Health Department,

the Brunswick County Courthouse Guardian ad Litem office, and

First Baptist Church of Leland.

If there are any questions contact Renee Walker at (910) 253-2384

Credentials

Credentials for Youth: Success in the 21st Century

Credentials tell employers that you have skills - measurable skills that can earn you employment or advance in an occupation.

A recent study based on Bureau of Labor Statistics data found that by 2018, more than two-thirds of the 47 million projected job openings will require some level of postsecondary education or training, including industry certification. For employers, credentials demonstrate and document skills, enhancing their ability to fill skilled positions, identify talent pipelines, and compete. For youth, credentials can improve their labor market experience leading to higher earnings, greater mobility, and enhanced job security. 

Learn how to get credentials

Steps to Help Youth Attain Credentials in High Demand Occupations

Local examples of Programs Helping Youths Attain Credentials

Clarification between ETV and NC REACH

CLARIFICATION ABOUT ETV AND NCREACH APPLICATIONS


We come across many students that are under the impression that the ETV and NCReach applications are one in the same. This is NOT accurate, and can put a hold on their funding.
 

If applicable, students need to fill out BOTH, ETV and NCReach applications, once a year. Their login info is the same for both:
• ETV - http://www.statevoucher.org
• NCReach - http://www.ncreach.org


Note - the two applications merge together in our system, therefore, updates only need to be done once.
 

The forms needed are the SAME and needed each semester funded:
• Financial Aid Release Form - student fills out the top, and school fills out the rest and faxes to us
• Budget Sheet - student fills out form and faxes back to us
• Participation Agreement - student reads, understands, signs and faxes back to us.
 

Please share this information along with new students and those already in the system. Some do tend to forget from one year to the next.
Remember, we are always available for questions or concerns.


Tracy Clary - nc@statevoucher.org
Meg Clohan - mclohan@ncreach.org
Wendy Kiser - wkiser@ncreach.org
 

America's College Fund for Foster Youth
 

www.fc2success.org
 

www.statevoucher.org

www.ncreach.org
 

Bill of Rights

Is Here!!!

SaySo, with support from the NC Division of Social Services, has finished our Foster Youth of NC Bill of Rights and also a NC Siblings Bill of Rights.
The SaySo Board of Directors formally endorsed both “Bills” on December 8, 2012, and we are advocating for the documents to be endorsed by the NC General Assembly.
The process has been ongoing as the SaySo Legislative Pages have annually reviewed Foster Youth Bill of Rights endorsed by other states. This past summer, Titianna G., NCDSS Summer Intern and former SaySo Board member, combined the documents to formulate drafts which were then reviewed by the current SaySo Board of Directors and approved.

 


 

 To Download Click

 Foster Youth of North Carolina Bill of Rights

 

   To Download Click

 NC Siblings Bill of Rights

 

  

 

 



 

Casey Life Skills

Casey Life Skills

As of September 30, 2012, the Ansell-Casey Life Skills Assessment is no longer available. The Casey Life Skills assessment will be used instead.

This assessment can be used online or on a printed version of the assessment.

A Guidebook and Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ) are available to assist with learning the new assessment.
 

Some of the basics:

Agency and worker accounts via CLS

  1. Each county creates their own profile.
     
  2. Each LINKS worker creates their own log in – connect to the Agency Profile.
     
  3. If other agency workers create a log in, they should also connect to the Agency Profile, and be aware they too would have access to other youth CLS records.
     
  4. If the agency selects a central administrator (like the LINKS Coordinator), you can invite co-workers from your agency profile page.
     

How to use the CLS Assessment – the Basics:
 

  1. Go to www.caseylifeskills.org
     
  2. Click “Create a free account” or “sign in”
     
  3. Click the youth you want to review or “Add New Youth”: Enter first, last and Date of Birth
     
  4. Locate youth in log and determine how the CLS will be administered:
    • a. You can then either start/return to an assessment on line right away
       
    • b. Send youth an email to start the assessment online at their location.
       
    • c. Print a blank form of the assessment
       
    • d. Youth creates their own account (See Complete Guidebook for Instructions)
       
  5. Which Youth assessment? CLS must be completed by youth. (Other youth assessment options may need to be considered especially for youths younger than age 13 or with special consideration, i.e., homelessness.) Other options are at youth and worker discretion.
     
  6. Choose the assessment and agree to the security terms. (Worker will be logged out at this time for youth to complete assessment if this option is chosen.)
     
  7. The assessment can be saved and exited at any time.
     
  8. As questions are answered, youths will move through seven areas (Daily Living, Self-care, Relationships & Communications, Housing & Money Management, Work & Study Life, Career & Education, and Looking Forward).
     
  9. A Caregiver can be invited to take the assessment only AFTER the youth has completed their assessment. Caregivers can take the assessment in one of three ways:
     
  10. A Comparison Report will be prepared once the Caregiver assessment is complete.

 

 

SaySo Survivor VII May 2012

SaySo Survivor VII - Tony Brazil's Presentation

 

SaySo Survivor is an annual leadership retreat focused on identifying, using and sharing your resiliencies.

In May 2012, Tony Brazil (former foster youth and current businessman) presented his take on resiliencies.

If you'd like to get in touch with Tony or learn more about SaySo Survivor, please email sayso@ilrinc.com or call 800-820-0001

View Tony's Presentation on Determination

Social Networking

What's Up with Social Media?

This presentation was originally developed by two SaySo members who also served as summer interns in 2011 with the Division of Social Services. At the time, administrators wanted some guidance on how to use social media, dangers, and benefits to using with foster youths. It has since been presented several times in North Carolina to both youths and adults (professionals and caregivers) to help facilitate discussions and clear up assumptions.

This presentation also made its national debute in September 2012 at the National Independent Living Association (NILA) Conference in Atlanta. Over 50 people attended this workshop which was lively, engaging and helped everyone discuss their concerns and need to develop guidelines for both professionals and youths in care.

If you would like a SaySo youth(s) to present this workshop to your youth or adult audience, please email sayso@ilrinc.com or call 800-820-0001.

View Social Media

Bridging the Gap

Bridging the Gap Workshop

 

This workshop is a PowerPoint presentation and interactive activites, combined to help youths build their support system.

Youth will learn to ask the tough questions when it comes to "who can you count on?"

This presentation was originally made at the National Independent Living Association (NILA) Conference in Atlanta, September 2012 to a larger youth audience. It was engaging and well received.

For more information about this workshop or to have a SaySo member present this with your group, please contact sayso@ilrinc.com or call 800-820-0001

View Bridging the Gap

In Honor of Makeisha Williams

Our 2012 MADD was in honor of Makeisha A. Williams who passed away Friday, August 3, 2012. Makeisha served on the Board of Directors from 2003-2006 and was elected twice to the NILA Board of Directors as a youth representative. She was also awarded National Youth of the Year in 2005. Makeisha continues to live on through SaySo as she encouraged foster youths to complete their education and provided the inspiration for our annual Make a Difference Day "Give a Child a Smile" suitcase collection event since 2004. Makeisha we know you will continue to watch out for our members. Thank you for touching our lives so sweetly - you will be missed.

 

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Youth Guide for Psychotropic Medications

NEW for youth to help guide your decisions around medications.

What you can expect to find in this guide:

• Recognizing you need help
• Knowing your rights about your health and who can help you make decisions
• Considering your options, including helpful approaches other than medication
• Making decisions about how best to stay healthy
• Maintaining treatment (taking medication safely and continuing or stopping treatment after leaving foster care)

 

Making Health Choices: A Guide on Psychotropic Medications for Youth in Foster Care

Flyer for Youth

Flyer for Professionals

 

 

Iredell County

Iredell County Local Chapter was established in November 2011.
 

Adult Supporter Contact

Shayna Rouson: shayna.rouson@iredell.nc.gov

 

 

What They Are Saying

We love throwing these events for you guys, and we also love hearing about them from you. So let us know how you feel.  

  • It's My Transition
  • Link-Up
  • SaySo Saturday
  • SaySo Survivor
  • SaySo Page Week
  • SaySo Make A Difference Day
  • NILA

Write in your comments about our events, we want to hear from you.

 

 

 

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Health Care Power of Attorney

What is a Health Care Power of Attorney?

A health care power of attorney is a document that allows you to choose a person who will have the authority to make health care decisions for you if you are unconscious, mentally incompetent, or otherwise unable to make decisions.

A health care power of attorney will stay in effect forever, unless you name a new person, or you specify a date for it to end.

 

Why Do I need a Health Care Power of Attorney?

There may be times that you are unable to participate in making decisions about your health and will need someone to do that. Consider this: You are in an accident and become unconscious. Someone will need to consult with the physicians and consent to your medical treatment AND it can't be you. 

If you do not have, or want a relative to make those decisions, you will benefit from having a health care power of attorney or health proxy. This allows you to choose who will make those decisions. They could be decisions around surgery or proceedures, medicines, or next steps to take. The main point is you have the option to name YOUR health care power of attorney and not leave these decisions to chance.

 

How Do I name someone to be my Health Care Power of Attorney?

Before leaving care, speak with your social worker about "executing a health care power of attorney" document. This document is legal and recognized by the state. Name this person in the document.

Be sure to select someone you trust. It could be a friend or relative or a lawyer. Anybody could be given this authority. The main thing is that the person you choose not abuse this power and will look out for your best interests.

 

Stand Up: Speak Out! (Raise the Age Stories Needed)

2011 Newsletters

2011 - Volume 12
(Please click the issue you would like to view)

Issue 1 - January
Issue 2 - March

Issue 3 - May
Issue 4 - July

Issue 5 - September
Issue 6 - November
(Includes MADD report)

Holidays - SaySo Style

During the December Board meeting, SaySo members find an unusual way to celebrate.

This year, Chaney Claus came riding into the meeting on a fully decorated John Deer! (Rudolph wasn't available this year!)

 

Partnership with the United Way

SaySo has partnered with the United Way of the Greater Triangle to help raise funds for their new initiative to help increase financial stability for foster youths in Orange, Durham, Wake and Johston counties. Funds raised will be used to help match youths' savings as they progress through the financial literacy training and meet goals.

Team Tocqueville (United Way funders group) sponsored an event at Hasentree Golf Course (September 2011) and afternoon tea at the Washington-Duke Inn (November 2011) to help educate participants in the transitional needs of foster youths and how financial stability is a huge obstacle to a successful transition.

Other events are planned for 2012 and beyond to help sustain the program.

Marcella and Chaney speak at the Tocqueville Tea 

Marcella and Chaney speak at the Tocquevill Tea with support from Lauren.

Transition

Transitioning from foster care is not as easy as it seems.

It requires planning and lots of preparation.

The Foster Club has a Transition Toolkit that will help you anticipate the bumps in the road and what you can do now. It thoroughly reviews the areas (domains) necessary for a successful transition. Use it and you won't miss a thing! cheeky

A Permanency Pact is also available. The Pact will make you think of all the areas where you will need support through your transition and secure the assistance of adults in your life as you make that transition. 

Check it out! yes

 

iSAYSO

 

"iSAYSO because... I matter... and so do you!"

 

Watch our videos @

 

 
 
 
 

 

This page is all about you and what you have to say. It includes poetry, stories, raps and testimonials from SaySo members, alumni, and supporters.

Feel free to submit your original work to mail sayso@ilrinc.com

 Enjoy and please give credit to those who have been willing to share their thoughts with you. smiley


 

A Forgotten Child (Savannah H)

A Return to Love (Marianne W.)

Able Youth Speaking Out (Daniel C.)

Different (Jen P.)

Failures (Makeisha W.)

I Miss You (Chad F.)

Jackie Can Rhyme (Jackie F.)

NO Fairytale Ending (Keyona R.)

Ode to My Youth (Jackie B.)

Our Biggest Fear (Marianne W.)

Our History Together (Casey H.)

Sadly Forgotten (Keyona R.)

The Red Flood (Amber S.)

We Gotta Start Loving (Lisa W.)

Why are Fathers Important? (Donisha A.)

 


Special Additions

***Contributed by Operation Healthy Family (OHF) co-produced with Level Ground, this song "Place to Place" is dedicated to those foster youths who have aged out of foster care onto the streets homeless with no education or employment. (click the song to see the YouTube video). It speaks about the issues of teens who age out of the foster care system. Four teens featured in the video have recently aged out of foster care and are apart of The Mocking Bird Society  a foster care advocacy group. OHF wanted to help shed light on the foster care system and the growing epidemic of  foster youth who age out of foster care.

 

***North Carolina's own Jimmy Wayne grew up in foster care and has become a nationally known country singer. Many of SaySo youths have met him at statewide events. Check out his song called Paper Angels on YouTube about the children named on the Angel Trees found in area malls during the holidays. He has also written a book about this song.


 

 

 

 

 

 

 

How to get your credit report

Get a Credit Report!

Foster Youths are at HIGH risk of identity fraud! 

A new law just passed that required every youth in foster care age 16 and older must have a credit report every year while in foster care! It started September 30, 2011

Click here for a copy of the entire law. The section on credit reports for foster youths is at the top of page 6 under "Case Plan and Case Review System." 

 

Why get a credit report?

 

This is a great law because foster youths are at high risk of identity theft! While in foster care, any number of people who have access to your personal information (such as social security number and birthdate) can open accounts and run up debt or stop paying bills using your name without your knowledge.

This is a BIG problem when it is time for you to transition to the adult world. Businesses and companies will run a credit check on you before you rent an apartment, get cable, buy a car, open a cell phone account and things like that. If you have bad credit, they can deny you services or ask for a large deposit to cover the cost of the service in case you don't pay your bill.

 

What will a credit report tell me?

 

Each credit report (there are three agencies that provide credit reports) will give you a full report. The report will list times when your information was provided to open an account. This will include things like opening an store credit card, a cell phone account, student loan, and things like that. Be sure the information is correct. The new law says your social worker needs to help you understand what the report says and help you resolve any inconsistencies in the report. Resolve this before transitioning from foster care. This is your life so be sure to talk to your social worker about it, understand it, and get your report cleared up early.

 

How do I get a FREE credit report?

 

 You may go to Federal Trade Commission for a list of FAQ's.

***This online process is only for ages 18 and older. Minors cannot receive credit reports online it must be done in writing. Agencies need to provide proof of guardianship to get a minor's credit report. (See addresses below)

  1. Go to www.AnnualCreditReport.com
  2. Select State and click "Request Report"
  3. Fill out the form - including your Social Security number, date of birth, and so on...
  4. Click "Continue"
  5. You are then taken to a page that lists all three reporting agencies - click the check box for all three names
  6. You will be led through each agency
  7. You will be able to see, save, and/or print the reports
  8. You can only get a FREE credit report ONCE per year (or it will cost you) so figure out a good time to do this annually - like your birthday.

 The reports will also tell you what to do to resolve any false or inconsistent information.

 

How to protect vulnerable children from credit reporting problems (click to be directed to article)


Credit Reports for Minors:

Requests for credit reports for minors must be done in writing. Be sure to include the name, address and social security number of the person for whom your requesting the report and proof of guardianship.

Annual Credit Report Request Service

P.O. Box 105281

Atlanta, GA 30348-5281.

New LAW! Foster youths MUST get Credit Reports!

How to Find and Keep a Job

(Taken from the “The Pocket Guide to Independent Living,” ILR, Inc.)

Getting a Job:

I.        Where to look?

a.       Newspapers – Classified Ads

b.       Employment Security Commission

  • See telephone book for address
  • Computer browsing of available jobs in a given area
  • Counselors will help

c.       Employment Agencies

  • Fee is usually required
  • Some employment agencies deal only with temporary placements

d.       Friends, neighbors, or relatives

 

II.     How to begin to get a job

a.       Call, write for, or pick up an APPLICATION

b.       Complete all parts of the application

  • Use black ink
  • Keep it neat
  • Spell everything correctly
  • Provide complete and accurate information

c.       Return application promptly and in good condition (not wrinkled, torn or spotted)

d.       Make a follow up call in about a week if you have not heard from the company

 

Interviewing Tips:

 

III.      Having a good interview

a.       Shower, shave (if appropriate), wash hair, and brush teeth before going for interviews

b.       Do not chew gum or smoke

c.       Dress in clean, neatly pressed, appropriate clothing and clean, polished shoes

d.       Arrive at least 5 minutes early (never late)

e.       Inform secretary or receptionist of your presence and purpose

f.        Greet interviewer politely

g.      Offer to handshake only if the interviewer extends hand first

h.       Wait to be told to be seated

i.         Answer all questions in complete sentences

  • Always give honest answers
  • Maintain eye contact
  • Smile often
  • Use proper grammar (no slang or vulgarity)
  • Keep answers to the point and in response to what was asked

j.         Do not touch things in office or on the desk

k.       Keep feet on the floor

l.         Try to hold questions until asked if you have any

 

Keeping a Job

IV.       Helpful hints for keeping a job

a.       DEPENDABLE

  • Report to work when scheduled
  • Arrive on time/leave as allowed
  • Keep sick time to a minimum
  • Call in when ill
  • Request time off as early as possible

b.       Do QUALITY work

  • Do job to exact specifications
  • Correct mistakes
  • Do assigned jobs completely
  • Do not be careless
  • Never think that “Close enough is good enough”
  • Take pride in doing each job well

c.       Maintain a POSITIVE ATTITUDE

  • Be cheerful
  • Be cooperative
  • Accept requests willingly
  • Offer positive comments

d.       Develop good COMMUNICATION SKILLS

  • Learn to express feelings in words
  • Describe situations accurately and clearly
  • Talk out problems and concerns

 

Changing Jobs

V.       When to change jobs

a.       When your hours/pay are not enough

b.       When problems at present job cannot be resolved to mutual satisfaction

c.       When the work you are doing is no longer satisfying

d.       When you have an opportunity to advance with another company

e.       When home and work are too far apart

 

VI.    How to change jobs properly

a.       Give notice of intent to employer

  • Minimum two weeks/Maximum 30 days

b.       Leave on good terms

  • May need to use present employer as a reference

c.       Return all work items provided by employer

d.       Give forwarding address so that final paychecks, W-2 forms, etc., can be sent

 

Gaston County

Gaston County Local Chapter was established in August 2011.

Adult Supporter Contact

Tiyania Shands tshands@co.gaston.nc.us

Make A Difference Day that Gaston County SaySo Local Chapter partnered with Hope for Gaston on October 5th to help distribute food for the community.

On October 21st, Gaston county are going to partner again with Hope for Gaston to organize their clothing closet for the community.

Please call to let us know how many are planning to attend.
704-862-7609 or 704-862-7689

Randolph County

Randolph County Local Chapter was established in July 2011.

Adult Supporter Contact

Katy Garris ksgarris@co.randolph.nc.us

Phone: 910-274-6196

Meeting Times:

Our local chapter meets the SECOND TUESDAY of each month at 6:30 PM (Our LINKS meeting follows around 7:00 PM)

We welcome youths from surrounding counties as well if you do not have a local chapter.

What we are doing?

For Make a Difference Day, we started a on-going project of collecting clothing and necessity items for both children and youth for when they come into foster care..

We have been visiting local churches and speaking to groups about being a foster parent.

Pitt County

Pitt County Local Chapter was established in March 2010.

Adult Supporter Contact

Shante Carson sacarson@pittcountync.gov

 

Nazareth & Rowan County

Nazareth Children's Home and Rowan County Local Chapter was established in March 2010.

Adult Supporter Contact

Donna Cagler (Nazareth) dcagler@nazch.com

Tisha Warren (Rowan) twarren@rowancountync.gov

Halifax County

Halifax County Local Chapter was established in March 2011.

Adult Supporter Contact

Kathy Richardson kathy.h.richardson@halifax.nc.gov

Forsyth County

Forsyth County Local Chapter was established in September 2010.

Adult Supporter Contact

Carmelita Coleman colemacm@forsyth.cc

336-703-3713

Durham County

Durham County Local Chapter was established in March 2010.

Adult Supporter Contact

Fantasia Johnson fjohnson@durhamcountync.gov

Craven County

Craven County Local Chapter was established in November 2009.

Adult Supporter Contact

Hollyanne Trombley hollyanne.trombley@craven.nc.gov

Robeson County

Robeson County Local Chapter was established in March 2009.

Adult Supporter Contact

Ghee Johnson gwendolin.johnson@dss.co.robeson.nc.us

Union County

Union County Local Chapter was established in March 2009.

Adult Supporter Contact

Angie Mallard mallard@co.union.nc.us

Next LINKS meeting will take place on Thursday Oct. 10, 2013 from 5pm-7pm at Union County DSS and the topic will be “Teen Health.” Hope to see you all there. We ordinarily meet the first Thursday but had to change to the second Thursday due to the speakers schedule conflict.

 

Alamance County

Alamance County Local Chapter was established in March 2009.

Adult Supporter Contact

Jason Eberly jason.eberly@alamance-nc.com

 

Crossnore School

Crossnore School Local Chapter was established in March 2008.

Adult Supporter Contact

Maria Russell

Wayne County

Wayne County Local Chapter was established in March 2008.

Adult Supporter Contact

Octavia Muhammad

Orange County

Orange County Local Chapter was established in March 2006

Adult Supporter Contact

Rhonda Reese

Surry-Stokes Counties

Surry-Stokes Counties joined to establish their local chapter in September 2005.

Adult Supporter Contact

Andrea Brandon and Mark Fuhrman

Catawba County

Catawba County Local Chapter was established in July 2004.

Adult Supporter Contact

Sarah Saleet

Onslow County

Onslow County Local Chapter was established in March 2004.

Adult Supporter Contact

LeRae Burroughs

 

Guilford County

Guilford County Local Chapter was established in July 2002.

Adult Supporter Contact

Sheletha Stewart

Cumberland County

Cumberland County Local Chapter was established in March 2002.

Adult Supporter Contact

Pamela Burch

Wake County

Wake County Local Chapter was established in March 2002.

Currently inactive

Caldwell County

Caldwell County Local Chapter was established in September 2001.

Currently inactive

Mecklenburg County

Mecklenburg County Local Chapter was established in September 2001.

Adult Supporter Contact

Tricia Nielson

Moore County

Moore County Local Chapter was established in January 2001. SaySo's first local chapter!

Adult Supporter Contact:

LeAnne McKoy

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          

Moore County engaged in a dual day of service and social. We started the day packaging school supplies with the Back Pack Pals program of Moore County that provides these supplies to homeless/displaced youth in the school system.  We packaged over 50 backpacks with notebooks, pencils, pens, pencil boxes, rulers, glue sticks, folders and personal hygiene products. Our day was concluding by overcoming some fears visiting the Woods of Terror in Greensboro.  I was determined that I wasn’t going in because someone needed to guard the van, but by the end I did brave through it.  It wasn’t that bad.-Leann Mckoy

SaySo Local Chapters

Local Chapter Information

SaySo is thrilled to have so many local chapters already developed. See the list of local chapters in the navigation bar. Click to see what is happening with the local chapter in your area. Local chapters can submit their news or update their current contact information by emailing localchapter@ilrinc.com We are happy to also include approved pictures.

If a local chapter does not exist in your region, click here to download the Local Chapter Start Up Kit.


Benefits of a Local Chapter

Local Chapter development is important in North Carolina because we have a "state supervised, county administered foster care system." This means that the state advises the services at the county level but that counties are permitted to determine how policies and regulations are governed in their area. What this means is that what one county requires for a CARS (Contractual Agreement for Residential Services) agreement may differ from another county. A local chapter has the ability to discuss such issues with their local administrators to help make decisions that are best for the young people in that county. The State SaySo Board of Directors does not have influence at the county level - but we can sure help get you to the right people to speak to!!

Also, it is easier to have more frequent meetings in a local area instead of waiting for the next SaySo event. Some local chapters meet either before or after the county LINKS meeting. Some chapters are a combination of a county DSS group and a private group home. Any combination can work.

What do I need to start a local chapter?

The interest in starting a chapter needs to come from the young people. One or two is all it takes to generate interest. The SaySo Board of Directors can send a youth to speak with a local group of young people to share what local chapters can do and how they have benefited from such a group. No worries... SaySo will help you through the process. OH.... you also need to select an Adult Supporter and provide that contact information to SaySo. Adult Supporters do just that... support you and the group as it develops, helps get the word out to other young people in the area, and helps to find a central location for meeting. Most adult supporters are LINKS coordinators, social workers, mentors, residential staff, foster parents, and GAL's but it can be any adult who the local youths have asked to help support their goals efforts.

How do we get our local chapter acknowledged by SaySo?

Once you have determined your local chapter membership and have elected your executive officers (such as President, Vice-president, Secretary, Treasurer), send those member names and officers, along with the contact of your Adult Supporter to the SaySo office. A certificate will be generated and mailed to you OR presented at the next SaySo Saturday Membership Conference. All local chapter are publically acknowledged at SaySo Saturday so be sure to attend!

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College Students

College Students - Vocational, Community, and Universities

  1. Try to maintain a regular routine including healthy eating and sleeping habits.
  2. Start a study group to stimulate your thinking but also make friends.
  3. Get involved in the FREE activities at your school - even if your are not sure whether you'll like it. You never know.
  4. Even if you have a s solid plan for a career and future, consider signing up for On Your  Way: A planning for your future website that offers a lot  of information and interactive features for financial aid, budgeting creating a resume, and a personal portfolio of all  your information...with security so you won't loose it.
  5. Contact SaySo about starting a local chapter at your college. More current and previous foster youths are attending college. SaySo can help you get in touch with young people just like you. The support is essential and SaySo is always getting more information that can help you along the way.


CLICK HERE - For a list of ALL North Carolina Four Year Colleges

CLICK HERE - For a list of ALL North Carolina Community Colleges

 

Are you in debt with student loans????

Read about Forgivalbe Education Loans for Services (FELS) www.cfnc.org/fels

 

CLICK HERE - For a list of ALL North Carolina Vocational, Technical, and Trade Schools 

Helpful Documents for New College Students

Preparing for College

Attending College

 

NC Reach

NC Reach

NC Reach is a state funded scholarship offered for up to 4 years, including fall, spring, and summer school terms. The program funds up to the school’s full cost of attendance after other public funds and scholarships have been applied. NC Reach provides comprehensive student support, including Virtual Mentors, Care Packages, and internships.

 NC Reach helps students meet the basic financial requirements they face when enrolled in postsecondary education.  The amount of funding students receive is based, in part, on the Cost of Attendance (COA) determined by their school.

Am I eligible for NC Reach?

North Carolina students are eligible for NC Reach if :

  • They are legal residents of North Carolina eligible for in-state tuition rates.
  • They were adopted from North Carolina DSS foster care after age 12 or aged out of NC foster care at age 18 (must have been in NC DSS foster care on 18th birthday.).
  • They are enrolled in one of the 74 North Carolina Public colleges, universities, or community colleges.
  • They have not yet reached age 26. Student remain eligible until their 26th birthday.

 

Visit www.ncreach.org to learn more, apply online, participate in web-based seminars, and connect to state resources to help you succeed in college.

Clarifications between ETV and NC REACH
 

ETV - Education Training Vouchers

ETV = Education for foster youth   yes

The Education Training Voucher (ETV) program awards grants to current and former foster youth to help pay for college or specialized education. ETV grants are funded by the federal government and administered by the states. In most states, eligible students may receive grants of up to $5,000 per academic year.

 The Foster Care to Success organization administers the ETV program for the states listed below. Eligibility requirements and available funding vary by state.

North Carolina ETV

The North Carolina Education and Training Voucher Program is a federally-funded, state-administered program designed to help youth who were in foster care. Students may receive up to $5000 a year for qualified school related expenses. Funding is limited and available on a first-come, first-served basis to eligible students. Applicants must complete the ETV application which includes documentation each semester that is sent directly from the school to ETV confirming enrollment, the cost of attendance (COA) and unmet need.

ELIGIBILITY REQUIREMENTS
1. You must be a current or former foster student who was:

  • in foster care on or after your 17th birthday.

OR

  • adopted from foster care with the adoption finalized AFTER your 16th birthday.

OR
 

  • entered into a kinship guardianship placement from foster care on or after your 16th birthday.

2. You must be a U.S. citizen or qualified non-citizen.


3. Your personal assets (bank account, car, home, etc.) are worth less than $10,000.
 

4. You must be at least 18 but younger than 21 to apply for the first time. You may reapply for ETV funds, if you have a current grant, up to the age of 23.


5. You must have been accepted into or be enrolled in a degree, certificate or other accredited program at a college, university, technical, vocational school. To remain eligible for ETV funding, you must show progress toward a degree or certificate.

Click here to start your online application. www.statevoucher.org

Questions for ETV in North Carolina????

Email the NC ETV Coordinator nc@statevoucher.org

Clarifications between ETV and NC REACH

 

 

Planning for more education?

Planning for more education beyond high school?

  1. Sign up for http://www.OnYourWay.org : A planning for your future website that offers a lot  of information and interactive features for financial aid, budgeting, creating a resume, and a personal portfolio of all  your information...with security so you won't loose it.
  2. Financial aid. Make sure you fill out the FAFSA to apply for financial aid as soon as you can after January 1 of your senior year of high school. You can file the forms you need to at: http://www.fafsa.ed.gov It will take some time to fill out the forms (especially the first year) but the financial reward is worth it.
  3. Some suggestions for filling out the FAFSA forms:
    • Review the form first.
    • Read every question before answering.
    • Make sure you have all the information/documents needed.
    • Get someone to help you fill out and review the form.
    • If you are still in FOSTER CARE - Say "yes" to question, which asks, "Are both your parents deceased or are you a dependent/ward of the court?"
    • DO NOT put any information about your biological or foster parents in the form.
  4. Hints for completing the form and answers to common questions can also be found at http://www.finaid.org
  5. CLICK HERE for "TIPS on how to fill out the FAFSA" ... The tips were created JUST for foster youths.
  6. Check out the ETV program...http://www.statevoucher.org Click "North Carolina" and apply on-line to be eligible for up to $5000 per year to help you through school beyond financial  aide awards.
  7. Don't forget to sign up for the SAT's. Take it your junior year at least once and again in fall of your senior year.
  8. Check out a bunch of different vocational and trade programs, which can offer REAL WORLD job training and great salaries. The job market is currently full of needs in machinery, electronics, repair, technology, medical, nursing, teaching, and others that  can be satisfied with a certificate or graduation from a  two year program.
  9. You can also visit North Carolina's own college foundation website to find information in regards to applying for colleges, financial aid and other questions that you may have at  College Foundation of NC.
  10. Princeton Review Website is a great resource for anyone getting ready for their college search.  Anyone can register to find information on: Colleges, financial aid, scholarships, SAT and ACT prep tests and courses and so much more.

 

CLICK HERE for helpful information on how ADULTS can help young people prepare for Post-Secondary Education and access Financial Aid

 

High School Students

High School Students

  1. Stay in school - you won't regret it.
  2. If possible stick with a high school diploma, GED's won't earn you as much money as a diploma.
  3. If getting a GED is a better option, plan to continue your education beyond a GED at a community college or vocational school. Trades are oftentimes earning more money than college degrees right now.
  4. If you are working and going to school, try to limit your weekly hours to 20 or less. More than 20 hours and your grades will suffer. Not cool.
  5. SIgn up for On Your Way:
    • It's a FREE website with no gimmicks!! 
    • On Your Way is a way to plan for your future that offers lots of information and interactive features:
      • budgeting,
      • creating a resume,
      • figuring out your learning style, and a
      • personal portfolio of all your information...with security so you won't loose it.
  6. Traditional high school holding you back? Talk to your guidance department about the other options you have:
  7. Check out the:
    • Dual enrollment program (you can get your high school diploma and college credit at the same time through a community college),
    • Middle or Early College Programs
    • Vocational options, including apprenticeships and internships.
  8. Review your school transcript...frequently to see if you have enough credits to graduate. It may be worth taking summer school classes to graduate with your friends.

 

Click here for a Checklist for High School Students of what to do each year to prepare for college.
 

 

For You Guidebook & Video

This video and guidebook was written to help youths coming into foster care in NC. The SaySo members who wrote this discuss topics including:

  • LINKS and Life Skills
  • Support while in Foster Care
  • Legal Issues
  • Sexuality and Health
  • SaySo

Enjoy this gift just FOR YOU!!


Click here to download the Guidebook

Click here to view the video.

NYTD Training for Youth by SaySo

This presentation was created by the SaySo Board of Directors to help LINKS youths understand the purpose and complete the National Youth in Transition Database survey.

Click "Open" and "Read Only" to access the PowerPoint.

NYTD Training Youth by SaySo.ppt

The presentation can also be downloaded and printed as a PDF Document.

NYTD Training Youth by SaySo.pdf
 

Working with Youth (for GAL’s)

Top 12 list for Working with Youth!

This document is written by youths and GAL administrators to assist Guardian Ad Litems working with foster teens.